Quick summary
The techniques in this article still work for curbing unnecessary impulse purchases.
“Must have” is often a phrase that we use as a reason to buy things that we don't need. Although it is more expensive than normal But because of the desire to have or the desire to have These are all basic human needs that we cannot deny
, especially when we see our friends having Because friends are considered people who influence the way we live our lives. Having a habit of making friends Or having the habit of following friends during adolescence is not unusual. Going out with friends, going out to eat, buying things, dressing, including various things that connect us with similar friends makes many times we have the desire to want to be like friends in order to gain acceptance from the group.
Therefore, the question arises that...
In conclusion Will we buy that product to use
or to show off to friends?
When talking about wanting and wanting to have or needs It is a level of need that everyone can have. When looking at Maslow's Hierarchy of needs theory which has arranged the needs of people into 5 levels as follows
Maslow's hierarchy of needs.
- physical needs (Physiological Needs)
is Basic needs that are necessary for living, such as the need for food, water, sleep, air, etc. - Safety Needs (Safety Needs)
are The need for physical and mental security. Freedom from fear, threats, and force from others and the environment - The need for acceptance (Love and Belonging Needs)
is social needs Want to receive love, friendship, belonging and acceptance of the group. For example, we choose clothes by choosing brands that are popular with our group of friends. In order to be accepted by the group - , the need for praise (Esteem Needs)
is Needs related to self-esteem self esteem Want others to see their value Want others to see that they are capable, valuable, and honorable. - Need for fulfillment in life. (Self-actualization Needs)
is The need to know and understand oneself To develop your own life to perfection Process to develop yourself according to your potential It is a process that has no end.
For the desire to have
In the stage of needing acceptance.
(Love and Belonging Needs)
Because it's a must , often half the time we want to be like friends in order to be accepted by the group. If that desire is beyond our control, It will make us feel embarrassed or miserable when we don't have friends like us. It has a negative effect on our mental health. To solve this problem, Dr. Wimonrat Wanphen, Deputy Director of the Rajanagarindra Institute for Child and Adolescent Mental Health, has recommended procedures for when we are in a state of "wanting to have, wanting" as follows:
Coping with wanting to have
- Practice looking at your own advantages
will make us feel confident. Even if it is a different advantage than others. But we must always tell ourselves that I'm good at this. - Don't just follow your friends.
You should find something that makes you happy. Because everyone must have their own world. Don't overlay our world with others all the time. - Do your best in the present.
Always think that in the present we only have this much. And I have to remind myself that if I do my best It is necessary to be confident.
It's not the fault we want to have. Because everyone wants acceptance from their peer group. But if it's too much, we won't be happy. and not having a sense of self
Our desires and desires should be based on moderation. Look for your own advantages and use them to your full potential. Because everyone has their own advantages that everyone wants to model
, even though friends are people who are with us in many events in life. But the family is also a strong institution that stays with us for life. If there is a problem that we know friends cannot help with, family counseling will be another solution that will help teenagers get through the crisis.
Summary
Wants and desires can be had, but they should not be clung to because they will make us unhappy and will affect our mental health. Don't worry that your friends won't accept you into the group. Because if they were truly friends No matter what kind of person we are It can be accepted. Try looking back at yourself. How much have we lost with the words “It's a must have”
Illustration from the internet.
Interviewed by Dr. Wimonrat Wanpen, Deputy Director of the Rajanagarindra Institute for Child and Adolescent Mental Health.