Quick summary: what "nok" means
"Nok" (นก, literally "bird") is Thai slang for getting rejected or ghosted after flirting or talking to someone — like a bird flying away. This article rounds up 15 reasons dating-app relationships often don't make it past the early stage.
“Bird” A warm-blooded vertebrate with two feet, two wings, and covered with feathers. Give birth to eggs But at present “Bird” is often used to express disappointment, slipping away, like a bird that likes to fly away. If you can't use it with flirting with men, it will be obvious. “Nok” From a man
In the beginning, Nok was often used to represent a person who was unrequited in love, a heartbroken person. Later, the word "Nok" was used in many situations in life that express disappointment.
15 The reason why birds
Let's talk about birds' symptoms With the way this world spins Everything is fast Make an appointment to meet quickly, talk quickly, have something together quickly. And break up quickly, birds quickly, pour quickly, everything is fast. Today is the time for the security guard to ask for the reasons why people are still "birds" for you.
1. Longing for boyfriend status too much
When do we try to find a boyfriend too seriously? We will put pressure on ourselves. And when you start talking to someone, you will have expectations. Create a destination without seriously studying the people who come. Until something doesn't go according to plan. You'll fly away or the other party pours Until you need a bird again
2. Obsessed with oneself
In this era where we can find a lover or communicate through applications. We can talk to many people at the same time. But in the end, that makes us feel even more lonely than when we don't have anyone to talk to. That's because we're too obsessed with our phone screens. It's no different than being obsessed with yourself. Thus making the bird by itself in the end
3. Wrong place, wrong time
Dating apps aren't the first place you should find a boyfriend. Although there are many couples who can be together for a long time. But not every pair is lost. Because besides the app There are still places where you should go and expand your worldview. Whether it's a pub or a bar Or any number of places where gay people can congregate might help you stay gay. So, put down the phone and see the world.
4. The specs are too high.
Many people set high standards: they must be short, they must be white, they must be tall. Handsome, muscular, doesn't like young people. I don't like people with tattoos, I don't like fat people, that's it. Because we are too busy choosing and neglecting good people. It makes you still unable to start with anyone. Please continue to be a bird.
5. Too many sexual partners
It cannot be denied that in this era there are many one-night stands. And because temporary fun that doesn't last forever is another thing that keeps you from being serious with someone. Because you see that at least there is still that person as your partner. Makes people have egos supporting their necks and keep their necks raised like a bird.
6. Rush Relationships
When someone comes along, you rush to enter their world. try to please Become a part of life But hastily combining your own world with the world of others may cause an unexpected shock. And it is another reason why many couples break up before getting together. Birds because they're in a hurry
7. I like having girlfriend status. But I don't want to have a boyfriend.
Many people really yearn for boyfriend status. Want to have a boyfriend. Looking for a boyfriend is a hobby. When someone comes in to talk, they quickly change their status to boyfriend or girlfriend without having studied each other's feelings first. Even though deep inside you may not like him. But you feel good about calling someone your boyfriend. has been disclosed to the public Take a photo together Eat a meal and watch a movie and brag to friends that he has a boyfriend But when we live together or really get to know each other, we find that we cannot survive. And in the end, they have to come back and die.
8. not suitable for love
Many people may have the idea that they are not good enough to have anyone. Not suitable for love block oneself Keep your heart in a drawer like Mai Charoenpura, not daring to start with anyone because your heart has not yet been healed. But did you know that in this world there is no one who is perfect in everything?
9. afraid of being rejected
You often tell yourself that you are insecure about yourself. So I don't think it's worthy of being in love. I don't dare to flirt with anyone. You don't know how to flirt. In fact, deep down in your heart, you're afraid of being rejected. Afraid of being a bird to the point of not daring to open up and talk to someone
10. Afraid of being discriminated against for sex
Although many gay couples have come out to reveal themselves. But there are still some aspects that are still unacceptable. So you are afraid that people around you will view you badly. consider you gay (It kind of is.) Or maybe you're just a guy who's in a secret relationship. So I haven't found anyone who's a match yet. or equal precepts
11. don't believe in love
There is another group of people in this world who think that love doesn't really exist. It may be that you have been hurt by devoted love many times. Or there may be a role model for love that hasn't been successful, so you think same-sex love doesn't exist. So you don't want to build a relationship with anyone. Having just a partner for days, a bird for days, and when the time comes that you like someone, this idea will come and pull you to the bird and fly away again.
12. As with the previous point, there is no ideal couple
That you don't believe in love That's because you don't know any long-term gay couples. Makes you not inspired to love someone for a long time
13. Afraid of intimacy
because everyone has a world that they don't want anyone to interfere with. You may be a very private person. Therefore, I am afraid of opening my heart to anyone to study and learn. You are afraid of intimacy. and not daring to open up and welcome anyone into life
14. Sex isn't everything
Sex isn't just a fun activity. But sex for couples is an expression of love between you and your partner. Having a boyfriend and having sex with only one person can make you uncomfortable. Because you may not know enough about your own abundance.
15. Willing to break, not bending
Love is a matter of two people. Many times, couples break up because they argue over small things, because they are willing to break but not bend. want to win But good love is not a competitive game. There are no winners or losers. Allowing each other in some matters is something that couples do together. It's not just being strong.
Summary
It's not wrong that many people want to stay single. or alone Because sometimes having a boyfriend or are in a complicated relationship It may make us lonelier than when there is no one. So just keep on being a bird.
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