6 Steps Toward Accepting That You're Gay

It's important for a gay person to live in society without anyone knowing. Or as we affectionately call it “Secretly” would cause discomfort. and pressure within yourself Although Thai society is open about sexual orientation, But the culture of each house is different. As a result, many people are still forced to conceal it in their hearts and live among the gender gender that society expects

The following article will be presented by the Security Guard. It is an academic matter that has actually been researched. It will take all readers to get to know the process by which a gay man reveals his sexual orientation. What steps did it go through? And in what ways will it be affected?

There are still many gay men. “Secretly” Just because I still don't accept myself. Don't accept your own preferences. Not admitting that you like the same gender This is because we have been instilled since childhood to view this as unnatural. Men must only be with women.

6 Process of Accepting Sexual Orientation

For a gay person to reveal that he is gay. There must be self-acceptance first. There is research that has analyzed the experience of accepting gayness through 6 processes as follows.

1. Starting to experience your own gay sexual orientation

For a man to recognize himself as gay. At this stage it will start to get confusing. Because there is no understanding of being gay. and tried to deny that he was gay Because today's society includes Thai values. But for some people, they will find that they don't like women at all.

2. Moving towards clarity in their own gayness

Men who are not clear about themselves. will encounter experiences related to being gay, such as facing society's negative prejudices against gays having sex with men Having a lover who is a man That will help that person be clearer and understand their own gay identity more

3. Accepting their own sexual identity

After going through experiences related to gays, there will be acceptance. and understand his own gayness Begin to join the gay community And begin to accept the surrounding environment that may have more consequences

4. Disclosing your gay sexual identity

When you can accept yourself. You will begin to ask yourself about the acceptance of those around you. Want your family, society, and friends to accept your gayness. and begin to reveal it to family, society, and friends

5. Gay life

when the surrounding society accepts it. That gay man will begin to understand the limitations of living a gay life. and began to develop his own potential in line with his openly gay life The people around him are an important support in such development.

6. The emergence of personality integrity

The fact that gay men embrace all past experiences into themselves. It will begin to create harmony. Feel comfortable being yourself Live in society normally Discover your true needs happy being gay There is pride in being gay. And do not try to be anything other than your true self

from the experience of the security guard who has gone through this process until the end. Looking back, I encountered many problems from the first process

because I myself did not accept being gay. with society and values ​​that are not yet open to This has caused confusion and has closed myself off for a long time to the point of trying to date women with my boyfriend status.

But because it's not yourself, we have to break up and accept it. I told myself I was gay. Once I accepted it I decided to tell my family and friends and when everyone accepted it. My life is like being unlocked. Can be yourself comfortably happy with living life And never worry about this again.

Gay people who accept themselves will have the following characteristics

• They are people who have their own values ​​and principles and beliefs.
• Ready to confirm your own ideas and beliefs when there is a conflict of opinions
• Ready to change your own ideas when you find that they are not correct.
• Able to decide on his or her actions and accept those actions
• Is a person who lives in the present. Don't worry about the future or the past.
• Has confidence that problems can be solved in the face of failure.
• Is a person who feels that they are equal to others as human beings.
• Has a feeling that they are not superior or inferior to others.
• A person who is able to receive praise and praise from others without feeling embarrassed.
• Able to accept the feelings and needs of others.
• I see that feelings such as anger, love, and sadness are natural feelings.

For anyone who hasn't revealed themselves yet, I recommend that you start by opening yourself up to yourself first. Accept yourself. Then you will see that there is nothing wrong. We can be good people in society as long as we are us. It's just that our sexual orientation may not correspond to our gender.

Summary

It is not wrong with that we will like someone. But it is wrong for us not to accept the truth of who we are. And the most serious step is to deceive yourself into thinking that you like women. Leading to marriage and eventual divorce. Don't hurt others just because you don't accept yourself.

Love and respect the real you.

Illustrations from the internet
Some information from :
- Pakpoom Dechaananwong (2012) Self-acceptance of sexual orientation of gay men

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