“Mai Mai Mai”, the myth that makes gay men secretly man

Have you ever wanted to know if the person you're talking to is actually a girl or not? And you want to know if the handsome gay guy who just walked past was a girl? And if you were to ask a question from your interlocutor, "Are you a lady?" How would you answer? Would you say it was a man or not? And how young would you be to be called a girl? Gay men who act coquettishly are stereotyped as all women. Until causing many people to choose to really be a secret man or not

In this article, the security guard would like to ask what is wrong with gay women? So why are gay men so popular?

Thailand is open about sexual orientation. Most societies recognize the existence and do not exclude the third gender group as in the past. But at the same time Racism among gay men Gay women are still everywhere. To the point that many people choose to act as a man in order to maintain their own image.

In the Thai entertainment industry, many artists are still questioned by fans: Is this person gay?... Who is this person?... What if this person is or isn't gay?... If he were to be gay and have a child, would that break any rules?... Or is it wrong for a gay man to marry a woman and create a family to have children?... If he were to be gay or not gay, would his popularity or fans' liking decrease?... Is this called an open society yet? When we still use gender as the deciding factor for our preferences. If he were gay, would people like him less just because of his sexual orientation?

How young is that? “Girls”

aren't the only people in general who still aren't open to it. But gays themselves still discriminate against the youthfulness of their gay friends as well. Have you ever heard the word “Do girls plug in?” Or have you ever seen a gay man dress up as a woman whose sexual behavior was proactive? In this era, many people expect Gayman to be offensive. And gay girls are accepting In fact, there are many gay men who act coquettishly but still play a proactive sexual role. But many times gay men are often faced with the question, “Mai Mai”

for the question set. The security guard may not have an answer. But I would like to ask all readers: When we ask someone,“Mai Mai?” Do you think the listener Will the reader answer the truth? If being manly can replace youthfulness, it can also make you look foolish. However, will being young make you not want to get to know him? Security would like to offer a solution that is suitable for everyone who encounters this question:

Not manly to the point of playing football and not girly to the point of being Britney.

As a gay man, you can still be a girl.

If you are a gay man who comes out as a girl or dresses as a woman, you may have to accept it. Because the popular type of gay that most people want is an aggressive, masculine, strong, muscular gay, while the thin, dry, and fat girl is usually less popular. That is personal preference. Because in the past, before there was the word "gay" , many people tended to view people with same-sex preferences as transsexuals, transvestites, who were inherently feminine. This creates the illusion that everyone will think that gay men must be young. and cause gay groups themselves not to accept this illusion.

Apart from the question. No. No. SSS (click to read) that gay men encounter regularly, there is a question “Is it a girl?”This is what gay men often encounter. This matter probably cannot be solved. Because it is a matter of personal preference that still clings to the original illusion. causing many people to choose to express their masculinity which often contradicts the truth

Stop calling me that. “Mother”

However, in the mind of one netizen who is gay from Pantip who posted the topic, Every gay person is not your "mother" or "sis"

“...I accept that I am gay and do not express it. Not that Abman But live a normal life We just didn't announce that we have that kind of sexual orientation. No one from my family, friends, siblings knew that I was gay, because I was afraid that if I would tell everyone that I was gay, I'm afraid that everyone will be disgusted. I'm afraid my friends won't accept it. Because I have more male friends than female friends. I'm afraid my family won't accept it because everyone expects me to have a wife and children quickly. Nowadays, I am asked every day when I will have a wife and children for my parents to raise their grandchildren. Which my heart really wants to have. But no woman likes gays..."

“...One day I came to work far from home. People at work asked me if I was gay or not. So I decided to say that it was. That's it. The whole office calls me mom, sometimes sis, to talk about clothes and cosmetics, which I don't care about these things at all..."

"...I'm often asked how I'm gay but don't know about these things. Being gay doesn't mean we want to be women. I never wanted to be beautiful. I don't want to wear high heels. Just a man who likes adventure sports, plays games, and watches football like a normal person. Many times I have been teased for wearing high heels. Do you want a skirt? It's not funny. Gays are men who have the same tastes as gays, that's all..."

"...women like me too. I like to look at things that are beautiful. That doesn't mean you have to know about those things. Women can take it and don't mind it either. Just that, the whole office rarely came to talk to me. Because they probably think I'm too masculine. As for some male friends who don't hang out with me, they think I'm too sweet. But some people can still talk normally..."

“...some women and men probably remember from the media that still revolves around creating the myth of gays being characters that represent being 'gay girls', sassy, ​​wearing brightly colored clothes, loud-mouthed, crazy about men, which in the end has to be stereotyped as 'this is what gays are like'. I want to say that not all gay men are crazy about men. I'm crazy about sex. Gay women like it too. After all, gays are men anyway..."

From the aforementioned thread, we clearly see that society's myth is Gay men must be coquettish, girly, and sweet, even though the truth is that it's not all like that. Therefore, when we are gay together, we should not hurt our feelings by asking "Ma'am?" The question that I want to leave you to think about is this. What are we asking for? And if we are asked, what will happen? Looking at the other person as a girl or a man Predict whether the other side will be offensive or defensive. Are we wasting time? We should respect everyone's sexual rights. Whether a man or a woman, everyone is equal.

Summary

Currently, the world is entering an era of making everyone proud of who they are. No matter what country you come from, what race, ethnicity, girl or boy, everyone should be proud of who they are. Because everyone has their own advantages and disadvantages. Choosing an ab man to please the other party cannot last forever. But admitting to myself that I am young, but I have time. Not a girl everywhere I didn't scream everywhere. But we are girls just the way we are. Girls because of gay DNA And don't want Abman

Respect each person's gender

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